Good morning to you!
How are you faring?
I have talked before about my experiences with EUPD, one of the most well-known symptoms is having intense emotions and mood swings. For example, I have gone from crying to exactly 15 minutes later dancing around the house just because. Oftentimes, I will never react the same way to situation twice, I am capable of many, many intense emotions at the “simplest” of things. This does not in any way make me dangerous as many may think, it is simply more painful for me to experience.
Every emotion has the opportunity to be painful for me, to drain me, to rule my life for whatever period of time. I can be the most empathetic, loving, compassionate, caring person you may ever meet. But when that stops, I usually feel so depressed, like I feel the world’s pain upon my chest and my shoulders, I feel so empty and so hollow that I have no bones keeping me in place, only emotions.
Thankfully, through therapy and the right combination of medication, the darker side of emotions have less of a handle on me but that doesn’t mean I never get like this. It just means I have learned to deal with emotions more healthily. Today I thought I would share with you my process, it is not by any means perfect, I still falter at the hurdle sometimes but I am definitely in a better place. I thought that sharing my process might be of interest, maybe even of use. So let’s get into it!
Acknowledge the emotion
This is arguably one of the hardest things to do. Even though our mind has evolved to create astounding self-awareness in us as humans, it is by no means a perfect solution. But the first step is realising the situation I am in, what I feel, why I am feeling that way and accepting the feeling. This could be as simple as “I feel ____ because ____. I noticed this because of ____ behaviour.” It is a bit like having an intrusive thought (which 100% of humanity experience), I acknowledge it and do what I can to move forward.
Take self out of situation
This may be a little trickier depending upon circumstances but I always find once I have noticed my emotions running high, that I need to find my baseline. I do this first by taking a step back, putting everything on hold and just breathing. I usually tell someone, or they have told me I need to take a step back, it is so useful having a support network to possibly guide me through this process.
Finding the trigger
I may already know what triggered this. I check whether I have eaten, or drank something recently. Did I get enough sleep? Am I giving myself enough time to relax currently? It may sound basic, but things like rest and food are integral to maintaining a happier and more stable me. I myself am very sensitive to this. When I am angry, I usually find 9 times out of 10 that it is because I have missed a meal, or have low sugar levels, or even on the rare occasion I forgot my morning medication. (I am human not perfect)
It could be something or multiple things cause stress to occur when first waking up that has set the tone for later in the day. But it is important to look back to see what caused this.
From finding out the trigger I need to be able to move forward. Sometimes for me it is a case of just doing something like mindfulness or using distraction techniques to cope. Other times I talk to someone about how I am feeling. So long as no harm comes to anyone or anything, there is no right way to deal with emotions.
There are many ways to take action whether through mindfulness and sitting with emotions or creating something, making lists and plans, organising spaces, exercising, reinforcing boundaries. Self-soothing with things like having a bath, moisturising and changing the bed sheets can really help.
And that is how I deal with emotions these days, I hope it gives you a little insight or might even help you. But like always, if you are concerned about yourself please contact a health professional.
Much happiness to you,