An easy read

Happy Mothering Sunday to all!

Gosh today is an easy read ramble, people seem to like my rambles.

I hope you are all staying safe and taking wonderful care of yourselves as you deserve! I have had lovely peaceful wake-ups this weekend. However, this week has been slightly tough for a few people I am close to, I have tried my best to support them but I provided too much energy to it. I ended up feeling *very* drained yesterday after a 2-hour tutorial for the upcoming assignment. I feel like I will be one of few not asking for an extension.

I have definitely felt privileged this week and checked it given my circumstances, very little of my life will change with The Current Situation. The only change is I do not know when I will next be in the physical presence of my partner. It sounds ridiculous, I know. I see his face every day over video calls but I don’t know when I will get my next hug. This is important to me because of the way I have attached to him and certainly, seeing him keeps me well. So I think I shall have to create a WRAP (Wellness Recovery Action Plan) on how to cope with an unknown time until I see him. WRAPs are brilliant, I think they can be so versatile, regardless of whether or not you have a mental illness. If you like I can do a post in the future on this? Let me know what you think! I will happily share mine as an example.

So, things are relatively well for me in spite of upcoming changes, I plan to spend the foreseeable future at home, which is no difference with having agoraphobia. I am coping well. I aim to be spending most of my free time reading, I have bought many, many books to read. Right now is the perfect excuse to immerse myself into it. I have a few fiction amongst the non-fiction. Send any recommendations my way! I will also be studying, I am so close to finishing with just two assignments and an alternative option for my now cancelled exam. I find out soon what that option will be. I am also thinking of spending time learning a new language, at school I was fantastic at French and became very fluent, of course, without upkeeping my skill it has been lost. I am thinking along the lines of Spanish, it is such a commonly spoken language now, it may be useful in the future! If you know of any great apps or programmes, again, let me know.

I think that is my update for now. I quite like these updates, maybe once a month I will do a post like this. I think looking into other people’s lives are fascinating. I will also be updating the information page once again as I have found more pages of information and resources 🙂

Much happiness to you (and love),

L x

A note on kindness for right now

Hello fine fellows!

I do apologise for a lack of a post on Sunday, because of The Current Situation, my anxiety has been up and down at very high levels. Having GAD and agoraphobia heightened by my personality disorder has caused some… interesting emotions, thoughts and behaviours. But I am here to talk a bit about kindness today.

We are seeing it all over the news, all over social media, we are seeing it in our shops and hearing about it from others. I know it can feel like there is no escape, even I am here talking about it. But it is too important not to. COVID-19. Now I am not here to debate about how serious or not this disease is, or what the best approach is, nor even whether how people are reacting is scarier than the disease itself. What I am wanting to do today is implore that you give yourself kindness and provide the same for others and offer some gentle reminders for moving forward.

I am aware that The Current Situation may be causing some anxiety in many peoples lives so please take the above image as a reminder to keep plodding on and do what you need to do in order to try and calm yourself. I urge everyone to follow governmental advice and to keep informed via the government website and the World Health Organisation only. Now please try to keep informed without being overwhelmed and use trusted sources only for your information.

All I have heard and seen recently are people unnecessarily hoarding supplies, fist fighting to get into stores first, ransacking shops, stealing things from other peoples trolleys and so much more. It just reminds me of the need for kindness.

Now, I do not know how long this will all last for, or what happens when less and less cases are found. But what I do know is, that to upkeep our well-being we need to be kind to ourselves and to others.

In order to be kind to yourself physically, please listen to your body’s needs and keep well rested, drink water, take vitamins, supplements and medication as you need. If you have anxiety, my heart goes out to you during this time, I understand what you may be going through. I ask that you are kind to yourself in your thoughts, be mindful of negative talk and try to combat any anxious thoughts and acting accordingly. Do not judge yourself for your reaction, it is simply how your instincts are. This is the time to enact self-care as much as possible, do what makes your soul happy and nourish yourself as best possible.

More than ever we need to be kind to others. Do not blame shop workers and NHS staff on the frontlines if they do not have what you require or need to seek further information. This is a very new situation to all. There will be bigger processes and instructions being given behind-the-scenes. Buy only what you need from the shops, don’t be depleted yourself but please don’t overbuy what you need. Others may need it and it is an act of kindness. Show kindness by checking in with family, friends and neighbours, within reason if they are unwell. If you can, donate to your local food bank as no doubt they will go into shortages. Be mindful that others may be stressed and not the happiest when in public.

It is time to show strength and unity for all. We need to take care of those who are not as abled or more elderly. We need to show kindness, love and support. I say this as someone who is now quarantined.

Please take care of yourself,

L x

Side note: if you need resources and information during this time, I have further updated the information page for you all.

I’m back: part 2

When you’re going through hell, keep on going. Winston Churchill
Happy Monday and good morning all! Thanks to recent glorious weather I have just spent a while mopping up mucky paw prints from all over the floors (thank you Raven). I thought I would start off this week with a very apt quote that has stayed with me throughout the years. It serves as a very strong reminder for me that no matter how far I fall, I keep going and keep fighting. It is what feels like a very real and powerful message. Now, the main reason for this post is just to become a bit more open about what has been going on, what I hope to achieve in the coming months and what kind of topics I will be posting about in the future. As I have dedicated this part of the internet a place of positivity for myself, and for you, I will always try to remain hopeful. But there may be times when my honesty is a bit more raw, with those posts I will place a content warning at the beginning. What is currently going on (CW: Mentions diagnoses and current impact e.g. hallucinations) Okay, let’s get the hardest part over first: my health. *Deep breath* I have multiple mental health diagnoses that impact me greatly which I will share more about as time passes. For now I shall just rhyme them off; Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder, Recurrent Depressive Disorder, Generalised Anxiety Disorder and Agoraphobia. I also have a food phobia and disordered eating. Gosh, I will be honest, seeing that written down makes me emotional but it’s what I have been given. Now, my agoraphobia is a result of my breakdown in April 2018, I can barely leave the house and haven’t really been able to unless I am with at least one of 4 trusted people, even then I am really distressed inside. My food phobia has come from 14 years of disordered eating. Very long story short, I completed 10 months of intensive therapy last year using a fair few therapeutic models and approaches, I was seemingly well. I got discharged on 24th October. I was well in November. Then 1st December comes and everything crashes. Week by week my motivation goes, my sleep becomes disturbed, my mood goes all over the place as if I was not on my medication. I tried my best in December to go back to basics like I learned. I created goals and tried exercise. But February has come. My paranoia, deep emptiness, loneliness and hallucinations have returned. There is a whole lot more happening but it can get complicated. Despite it all, I am getting on with life. I have to. I still find enjoyment in some things, I am currently on a self–love journey, I still adore my little guinea pigs, I am doing surprisingly well in university (82% on my latest assignment, very pleased). One thing I firmly believe is that I never give up, despite it all, I keep on going. I listen to my body and try my hardest to take care of myself. It also helps I have the most supportive partner and support network to keep me in check. I do feel that the winds will change. So that is what I am going through. I am okay, and will keep on going! So what do I hope to learn, achieve and do? I will admit since therapy and getting further into psychology with university, I do have a different outlook that I am not too sure how to explain. My self-awareness feels a lot more heightened and I know what my brain is physically doing. So it feels like what is going on is sometimes only happening to half of me and the other half is absolutely fine and separate from it all. Either way, it is a complex situation. I know things will improve because they have before. So I have this knowledge. I have my foundations for self-care and well-being. Where do I go from here? Well, I will work with the services to see if I need further treatment or what can be done. I think it’s time to start and finish some projects I had in mind during a mania phase and put my passion out there, give myself positive things to focus on. I feel like this is where I learn my distress tolerance, and learn how to move forward and get through what I am going through. Keep on going. I think for me to grow I need to do a lot of reflection, see what has been going on and how I can react differently next time, how I can act now and for the future. There is always something to learn. What will be featured on this blog in the future? I am very excited about what I have planned for the future posts here at PP! There are going to be plenty of book reviews as I am really enjoying reading right now. In terms of wellness, I hope to look at goals, a bit more in-depth into routines, other aspects of wellness holistically, I will also be sharing my journey of self-love. Things are going to become a lot more personal and I will be sharing my story of mental illness, how my mental health has impacted me, what has changed over the years and what has not. I want to start a real conversation on everything I have experienced and what has come of it. I hope what I speak about in the future resonates with you, inspires you or even maybe helps you to feel a little less alone. Thank you for standing by me. Much happiness to you, L x

I’m back: part 1

Hello to all of you wonderful beings!

First order of business! I absolutely cannot believe it has been two months since I had my first ramble. I really want to apologise to you all for taking so long in coming back. As it will be clear going through my posts, I am someone who has mental illness. I am trying my best to get better though I feel like I am only getting worse right now and as appreciative of the NHS as I am (believe me, I love the NHS), they’re not helping too much at the moment but hey, everyone and everything are doing their best!

There are a few other reasons as to why I have taken so long to post. I wanted to make sure I knew where I was going with this blog for starters. But a big reason why is because I was ashamed. I felt that to talk about wellness and well-being as a whole, I myself have to be some form of enlightened being who had it all sussed out. I felt like I had to have the aesthetic, the perfect being who has it all figured out. Then something happened that usually does with me. I read a book. This book is about the science of self-love (there will be a review, most definitely) and the author felt like me early on in his journey as a speaker, but learned that sometimes, going through the journey can have some very interesting insights and you don’t have to know everything to speak what you are passionate about.

So… I am back.

I hope you are ready to join me in my next evolution (I don’t feel like journey is a word that suits me, personally). Tomorrow I will be going more in-depth about how I am hoping to grow from what is happening to me right now.

Next order of business! I wish to say welcome to all of my new visitors and followers, please know I am so truly happy and grateful to have you here. I hope you find some positivity from reading my posts and thoughts, maybe even learn something new. Also, please feel free to comment or message me in the contact form if you have any questions, comments or just want to chat: I love speaking to new people! i will definitely be more active from now on.

Finally, if you cannot already tell, this blog will be now be used for my process as I try and recover. I will be writing about what I know best, which is mental health and illness, alongside wellness.

Thank you all so so much for reading this, I can’t wait to see what the future brings.

Much happiness,

L x

A bit of a ramble…

Hello everyone!

I am just wanting to write a quick post apologising for not posting in the past few weeks.

I feel like I can be open and honest and tell you that I have been unwell recently, and whilst I am usually on top form being able to accomplish everything, right now I just haven’t been able to. It is quite common around this time of year for things to fall out of balance for me and as I have said previously, we just cannot do everything all the time. My priorities have had to be altered.

A lot has been going on between assignments, travelling, volunteering and general life that I am now taking some time in the coming weeks to not only celebrate the festive season but also to plan ahead. I am hoping to get ready for the energy I want to bring in to the New Year with goals and upkeep of positive habits but also plan out some new ideas for this blog.

Thank you to those of you who have been following me, it is truly appreciated. I appreciate each and every one of you and I so hope you have a wonderful couple of weeks and start the new year feeling refreshed.

Much love and happiness,

L x

An Introduction…

Welcome to Pondering Positivity! This is one of those obligatory posts some bloggers do when starting out as an overview of what they are about, I am no exception. So here we go… You wonderful people can call me L. Pondering Positivity is primarily a place where I will post a collection of my many thoughts. Despite life, I have lived a blessed year filled with goodness, love and gratitude. I have completed what was for me a transformative course of therapy, feeling like I have evolved and grown as a person. Here is where I wish to make a safe space for my thoughts, things I have learned, concepts I find fascinating. I know, I know. Why not journal? Well the answer is simple, lovely stranger. I want to be able to share my journey, my narrative, with you. In the simplest of hopes you might be inspired, feel well or even be able to find common ground with a stranger. Every Sunday I will publish a new post on something I feel can bring positivity to our lives, can improve our well-being or just simply something I have learned and wish to share with you all. These will be topics such as book reviews, well-being ideas, habits, psychological concepts and so much more. Well that is all for now but please do comment, subscribe and message me, I would love to interact with all of you. I hope you enjoy my future posts. Happiness to you all, L x