25 lessons

Good evening all,

So I love my lessons it seems. Yesterday was a big birthday (for me), I turned 25, I have had 7 additional years I thought I’d never see. Though I’m still young, I have learned a lot already, I’ve seen a lot of life in such a short time. I turned a quarter of a century, in the middle of a pandemic, it was my first sober birthday since 16 and probably my last one in my hometown (for a while at least). Yeah, that’s big for me.

So I thought I’d do a small post, just sharing general life lessons I have learned so far, it’s mainly a reminder to myself, should I ever forget. Something to reflect on as I get older.

1. Life can throw many, many terrible things at you, sometimes all at once (think 2014, L)

2. You don’t have to have everything figured out by age 18.

3. Following on from 2, plans will never go exactly according to your schedule.

4. Everything is impermanent.

5. You will see both the wondrous and awful nature of humans at some point.

6. There are over 7 billion versions of reality and what life should look like on this planet.

7. If you don’t want to experiment or “go wild” because you’re ‘young’, then don’t.

8. Live life according to yourself, and no one else.

9. There are extremes to every view and thought in this world.

10. Always seek help where you need it, in any given situation.

11. You’re going to mess up. That is an inevitable fact. No one leaves their life without making mistakes.

12. Don’t be afraid of having an opinion. It’s how you find your values.

13. Don’t be afraid of conflict. Though do not seek it out.

14. Violence is never the answer.

15. Set goals and dream, but be prepared to be flexible.

16. The future is never guaranteed, but certainly seek it out.

17. Sometimes being curious about the future is enough to find your way there.

18. Everyone has something to contribute.

19. Try your best to be compassionate, understanding and empathetic.

20. Communicate.

21. There is always something fun to do.

22. Don’t procrastinate.

23. Life has its meaning.

24. Everyone has strength.

25. Always, always keep going.

Much merry love,

L x

An easy read

Happy Mothering Sunday to all!

Gosh today is an easy read ramble, people seem to like my rambles.

I hope you are all staying safe and taking wonderful care of yourselves as you deserve! I have had lovely peaceful wake-ups this weekend. However, this week has been slightly tough for a few people I am close to, I have tried my best to support them but I provided too much energy to it. I ended up feeling *very* drained yesterday after a 2-hour tutorial for the upcoming assignment. I feel like I will be one of few not asking for an extension.

I have definitely felt privileged this week and checked it given my circumstances, very little of my life will change with The Current Situation. The only change is I do not know when I will next be in the physical presence of my partner. It sounds ridiculous, I know. I see his face every day over video calls but I don’t know when I will get my next hug. This is important to me because of the way I have attached to him and certainly, seeing him keeps me well. So I think I shall have to create a WRAP (Wellness Recovery Action Plan) on how to cope with an unknown time until I see him. WRAPs are brilliant, I think they can be so versatile, regardless of whether or not you have a mental illness. If you like I can do a post in the future on this? Let me know what you think! I will happily share mine as an example.

So, things are relatively well for me in spite of upcoming changes, I plan to spend the foreseeable future at home, which is no difference with having agoraphobia. I am coping well. I aim to be spending most of my free time reading, I have bought many, many books to read. Right now is the perfect excuse to immerse myself into it. I have a few fiction amongst the non-fiction. Send any recommendations my way! I will also be studying, I am so close to finishing with just two assignments and an alternative option for my now cancelled exam. I find out soon what that option will be. I am also thinking of spending time learning a new language, at school I was fantastic at French and became very fluent, of course, without upkeeping my skill it has been lost. I am thinking along the lines of Spanish, it is such a commonly spoken language now, it may be useful in the future! If you know of any great apps or programmes, again, let me know.

I think that is my update for now. I quite like these updates, maybe once a month I will do a post like this. I think looking into other people’s lives are fascinating. I will also be updating the information page once again as I have found more pages of information and resources 🙂

Much happiness to you (and love),

L x